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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • One of the cornerstones of a good “romantic” relationship is friendship. I personally don’t believe a relationship can survive without it. My wife is many things to me, one of which is my best friend.

    Building friendships is a process that takes time and can’t be forced. So don’t put too much pressure on one evening. Don’t worry about where you’re going to be with this person in a week or a month. You have no way of knowing that. Dates are just opportunities for you both to get to know each other, share experiences that you enjoy and just have fun in general.

    Even “normal” people don’t feel physical attraction constantly. My wife still loves me even when I’m not particularly sexy and vice versa. Besides, real beauty is more than skin deep.

    You’ll need to have an open, honest discussion about expectations if you ultimately want to keep seeing each other but that’s a conversation for another day. This time, just try to relax and have fun.








  • I once worked for a big corporation that makes hydraulic rescue tools, where management somehow failed to grasp that the chief selling point of these tools is that they do the job reliably every time. No firefighter wants to be trying to get someone out of a car like, “Damnit! The cutter is acting up again. We should probably look into that.”

    But the executives kept demanding that we add “features” to the tools that effectively compromised the reliability and then got all surprised Pikachu face when it was explained to them that the customers thought the tools were overpriced half-assed garbage.

    I guess my point is I’ve seen plenty of incredibly stupid examples of management ignoring the engineers and yet somehow Musk demanding that radar be scrapped in favor of cameras is right at the top of the list. Especially if you want your customers to live long enough to buy your products more than once.




  • “Mrs. [Husbands firstname lastname]” is a pretty dated form of address. I feel like I don’t see that a lot anymore. Except in very formal situations and from people who don’t realize it’s out of style. It’s also seems to have become more acceptable to refer to all women as “Miss/Ms.” Regardless of her martial status. I sincerely doubt the address mistake was meant to be offensive.

    One thing I do find infuriating is the fact that it in numerous states in the US, it is much harder for a man to take his wife’s last name when getting married than the other way around. A woman can mail a form and a copy of her marriage license to the Social Security Administration and get the DMV to reissue her driver’s license. That’s all it takes.

    A man often has to get a court order which I think is very discriminatory.




  • I hear a lot of devs that don’t seem to get this.

    “WhY wOuLd YoU uSe ExCeL? I pReFeR tO cOdE mY oWn SoLuTiOn.”

    No, Why would I spend a week coding something that I can create a pivot table and some charts for in an hour? Especially when if I code it myself, that means I now own and have to support my lovely new utility. Time is money and I’ve got way more important things to do than build custom reporting suites that no one except me is ever going to use.