Yes we actually “met” on a website for asexual people which I why I feel a lot less pressure in this sort of scenario than way back when I went on a date with a non-asexual person. Weirdly though, a lot of asexual people still want to make out and have sex, but in general it’s not as much as non-asexuals. Thank you, though. I will try to just enjoy the walk and chat.
Yes that’s basically all I want out of any type of relationship!
I don’t mean that no one finds me attractive (not that I am some level of celebrity beauty or anything). I mean the other way around. I don’t have the capacity to find others attractive.
Don’t get me wrong, I can tell the difference between a good looking and an ugly person. It just doesn’t do much for me. It’s like having a nice landscape painting. It’s nice but I don’t feel some type of way about it.
Plus why put this here instead of in the NSFW instance they came from?
That’s honestly what scares me the most. I think we can survive another 4 years of Trump. What I don’t think we could survive is if he completely destroys what democracy stands for and gets rid of our term limit for presidency. That is completely terrifying to me and seems to be a very real threat. Trump is old and he’ll probably die soon, but if he gets rid of term limits then who knows what kind of horrifying monster we could have ruling the country indefinitely after his death once that precedent is set.
But at least I have another 4 years roughly before I have to start worrying about that I guess.
Let me guess, you’re a white cis male?
I work with my one and only IRL friend. The other friends are online. So I vent to my IRL friend while we are working.
Plus writing stuff down doesn’t seem to help me anyway.
And then you have some ridiculous retailers that don’t allow you to hold a package for pickup anymore. What the hell happened to that? I feel like it used to be when I had a package that needed a signature I could just request for it to be held at the parcel service center for me to pick it up later.
But the last two times I had a package with a signature required, it wouldn’t allow me to do that. The package was going to be returned to the sender for ridiculous reasons. One was an age restricted item which I can kind of get, but the other wasn’t. Both times I had to beg and plead with the delivery company to hold the parcel even though it was not something they were supposed to do.
And people wonder why Amazon gets so much business. They don’t make me take days off from work so I can hopefully receive a fucking package of the delivery person actually feels like ringing my doorbell.
Never again with packages requiring a signature for me. I don’t work from home and my workplace is not in a location that can receive packages.
I didn’t realize that I had turned it on on my prior phone. Welp, my phone absolutely died one day and would no longer power on. I was really sad about losing my photos and videos, but then when I got my new phone I was happy to find out that at some point I turned on photos cloud backups.
Yeah, I’m with you on that. Everyone on Lemmy loves password managers, but I don’t really like the idea of entrusting all of my passwords for everything with one singular program. I actually also dislike 2 factor authentication. One time my phone broke and my bank wanted to verify my identity to purchase a new phone. Except my phone was broken so I couldn’t… Yeah I really don’t want to run into that scenario again except worse.
I’ve actually gone old school with it and I keep most passwords physically written down in a notebook using my own cypher language/pictograms. If someone irl really wants to break into my home, find the notebook, and try to decode it, I’d be in bigger trouble to begin with. It’s very unlikely.
My mom’s dog goes nuts when she finds tissues coated in boogers in the trashcan or if she finds underwear that has been worn for a day. She acts like she’s at an all you can eat buffet.
I can’t stop ruining everything when I do. Everything I say is wrong in some way or another or bothering someone. I need to exist entirely within myself if that makes sense.
I work with my hands all day! I dictate what I’m doing as I’m doing it. I work in a lab where I’m manipulating and cutting things covered in blood and poo. Dictating is far quicker and cleaned than typing it all out and it means I don’t have to stop manipulating or cutting the specimen to record what I’m doing. Imagine how much quicker it is to read 10 pages out loud than it would be to type the same 10 pages. The voice dictation software works far better than the regular dictation software on your phone because it’s tailored to the type of job I have.
Thank you very much for your kind words. Same to you! 😊
Tbh, I have occasionally wondered if maybe I’m just gay. I’ve never dated someone from my same sex, but I’ve wanted to try. Problem is on these asexual dating sites, they are mostly filled with men. So they are the ones I get the most back and forth with. I’ve yet to really mutually interact with a woman that I’ve had an interest with on there.
I’d rather not stray too far out of the asexual realm when thinking about a partner tbh. It would be nice if there were more aces locally to do stuff with and get to know, but there just aren’t.
To be honest, I have thought now and then that “maybe I’m just gay”. But I still don’t seem to feel any of that stuff as strongly as sexual people do so idk.
I’ve never dated someone from the same sex, but I’ve been curious about it. These asexual dating sites are mostly filled with men, though, so it’s hard to find a woman both that I’m interested in and that ends up responding to me. My profiles put me as open to both men and women, but I’ve yet to find a woman that wants to mutually chat tbh.
Thanks, man. I’ve known and seen so many people that do. And even most in the comments here seem to think that I should just never bother to try because I don’t operate that way.
This is good to hear, honestly. I felt like I am taking crazy pills a bit when so many people in these comments are saying there is something wrong with me for not being immediately really into someone I just met.
I think one of the difficulties I had is that…maybe a decade ago when I was a lot younger, I had someone who was interested in me. I wasn’t interested in them, but they were nice and so I thought I would maybe try it. We go on a date and it’s going fine but the guy wants to be able to kiss and stuff.
I get that boundaries are a thing and you can tell people no, but… I noticed at that point that most people are sexual. And most sexual people seem to be immediately interested in making out and having sex with someone. I get that not everyone is this way, but the majority of people are because they are driven by sex. So it’s all just a bit confusing and difficult to navigate as someone on the asexual spectrum.
Would you mind expanding a bit on the anti social behavior and how therapy altered it personally?
Thank you guys! I will likely be deleting this post soon (although I know it will likely be eternally on the fediverse).
I had a nice time. We just talked and walked and it was pretty chill. I don’t really know if I had to label the experience as a “date” or anything, but nothing too crazy happened haha. Found out he’ll be moving across the country in a few months (which I already kind of knew by this just confirmed it). That’s ok! Nothing wrong with just meeting a new human and hanging out for a bit. We’re gonna try to do something again before he moves away I think!