when the most visible time men speak up about it is when they insert themselves into a conversation about women.
That’s not true, its just the only time you notice. It was a completely relevant to the comment. Do you really think you’d respond like this if a women replied with a relevant thing that happens to them? You could have just agreed that it’s crazy how far religious zealotry.
When people talk about joining the Fediverse one of the main reasons mentioned for not staying is that people will jump on them over a tiny mistake. That’s what I saw your comment to be.
Telling people “don’t ever fucking mention another issue when a women is talking” is stupid. The more comments we get on lemmy the better. The more discussion the better. The medium allows discussion to fork without derailing anything. So if people want to respond to that comment and discuss then nothing is taken away from any of the other comments in this thread and people who don’t care can just minimize that comment and all the rest in that comment thread.