Thank you.

A big part of why I have severe anxiety to this day is because I was exposed to traumatic things far too young/quickly. I was pushed into situations where I was not ready or emotionally/mentally equipped to handle. Constantly.

Exposure is only good if a person is ready for it. Desensitization is only helpful when you are equipped to handle such a thing.

I had an ex who would say that we were doing one thing, then take me to do something completely different, then boast that he was “helping me”, which only heightened my fears in the end. As a foil to that, I had an ex after that who was encouraging and supportive and kind, and gently led me into the same situations, where I knew what I was getting into. Guess how which one had me overcoming my fears?

Exposure works best if you are prepared for the exposure and have the support you need in those kind of situations.

I am always thankful for trigger warnings.